Slut Proof Your Man
There is no easy way to put this. If you have the typical relationship with your man, he could be vulnerable. Vulnerable to the sluts out there who don't mind stealing another woman's man. Now I'm not saying that your guy is a bad guy or has weak morals or anything like that. And I'm not saying you are a bad girlfriend or wife. But he's probably still at risk.
So what can you do?
Believe it or not, you can actually 'train' him to be faithful and happy at home. But there is a twist here. I'll let T.W. Jackson (author of The Magic of Making Up) explain in this video. Note that he starts out talking about training a guy to call when the girlfriend wants him to, but goes on from there to the more general issue of how to 'train' people to do what you want them to do. Be sure to continue reading after you watch the video so we can relate it directly to 'slut-proofing' your guy.
Welcome back! As you saw in the video, how you respond to your man can 'train' his behavior. So how does this relate to keeping him invulnerable to the sluts out there who would steal him from you?
Here's why your guy is at risk:Let's assume your guy is successful and classy. He's probably doing great in his job and popular wherever he goes. What that means is that when he's at work or out in the world, he is admired, respected and desired. He's a minor (or maybe not so minor) hero to the people he deals with. And as T.W. (a.k.a. T Dub) points out men love to feel admired. Truthfully, we need to feel admired by our woman. When he's out of the house, he is admired by others and it makes him feel wonderful.
But what about at home. You love and admire him. You have the deepest respect for all the things he has done. But does he get that message? Or does he feel nagged when he gets home. Does he get the message that you admire him or that you are annoyed he didn't get the garage cleaned out this weekend?
If not, you are in effect teaching him that he gets more of what he really needs (admiration) outside of the house than at home. And if he doesn't feel respected and admired at home, he is vulnerable to a woman who will make him feel that way when he is with her.
To 'slut-proof' him, you need to make sure that he feels respected and admired at home. Compliment him when he does what he says. Remind him of how much you appreciate him for what he does. Let him know that you admire him. Remember, he chose to be with you in the first place. If you make sure he feels admired and respected at home, no slut out there will be able to pry him away from you.
If you want more specific ideas on how you can make your man feel admired at home and protect your relationship from those women out there who would steal him away, grab your copy of The Magic of Making Up.
