Get Your Man Back After Your Affair
You had an affair and your man found out. Now, even though the affair is over, your relationship with your real man, the man you love, is dying. You're afraid that you'll never truly get your man back, even if you two stay together. There is something you can do to try to salvage your relationship. It's called the Clean Slate Method.
The idea behind the Clean Slate Method is to apologize for what went wrong, but to do so in a way that can truly wipe the slate clean in your relationship so it can begin to heal after the affair. I can't give you all the details here. Instead, I can introduce you to this powerful approach to saving your relationship and point you to where you can get more help.
For the Clean Slate Method to work, you must take responsibility for the rift in your relationship. But you must not say that you were wrong. This isn't about who was right and who was wrong. It is about taking responsibility for the rift in your relationship and moving forward. If you tell him you had an affair because he didn't give you enough attention, worked too late or whatever, what do you think will happen? You'll have a war, not a reconciliation. And if you say you were wrong, you are again moving the focus from healing the relationship to assigning blame. You must take responsibility without saying that either of you was wrong.
Next you must focus on his feelings and yours. You need to acknowledge how your affair made him feel. To do that, you're going to have to put yourself in his shoes and see the situation through his eyes.You must understand how he is feeling so you can address his feelings and grow together again.
But you also need to be able to tell him how you feel. And you need to be able to do it in a way that doesn't make him out to be wrong either. This is tricky ground, and the Clean Slate Method guide that's included with The Magic of Making can show you how to get into the proper frame of mind for this.
Finally, you must be able to sincerely apologize without defense and expectations. In other words, you must be able to apologize and accept that you may get nothing in return. And you must be all right with whatever result you get. He may forgive you. He may not forgive you now, but do so later. Or he may never be able to forgive you.
You must be able to accept whatever comes. Again, achieving the right mindset is crucial to doing this properly. The Clean Slate Method guide can definitely help with this.
The Clean Slate Method is more difficult than a traditional apology. But if done right, it has the potential to truly clear the slate and allow your relationship to recover from your affair. The Clean Slate Method guide is just one of the great bonuses in T.W. Jackson's <b><a href="http://bring-back-the-love.com/articles/get-your-man-back/how-magic-of-making-up-helps-get-your-man-back">Magic of Making Up</a></b> relationship repair guide.
