Dating Other Men To Get Your Ex Back
Have you considered how strange people can be. Give someone too much of what they want and they don't want it anymore. Tell them they can't have what they want and they want it even more. It's the same in relationships. Give your man everything he wants and he's just as likely to start taking you for granted as he is to appreciate you more. Play hard to get and he is more likely to want you. Strange, isn't it. And it gets stranger.
Here's the ultimate paradox in your relationship: the best way to get your man back may be to date other men! Truly, I'm not crazy. Keep reading to see what I mean.
How Dating Other Men Can Help You
The benefits to you are pretty clear. You are probably sad and stressed out from your breakup. Getting out of the house and going on a date will help you:
- Rebuild your confidence
- Give you something to do other than feel bad and stress out
- Have some fun again!
Going out is good for you. Knowing that other guys are attracted to you is important after the things that went wrong between you and your ex. It can only improve your self confidence which is probably kind of low right now. You'll feel better about life and about yourself.
Dating also takes effort. You need to put time and energy into it before you even head out the door. All that time and energy going toward a date is time and energy you aren't spending thinking about your ex and feeling bad. You need to spend time on thinking about other things if you're ever going to get your balance again.
Besides, dating is fun. Having fun is kind of the whole point of dating in the first place. You've had plenty of not-so-fun days recently. It's time to have some fun.
How Dating Other Men Can Convince Your Man to Come Back
I don't think the benefits to you of dating are very controversial. But what about the reason you're reading this in the first place? How is all this going to help you get your man back? Remember how we were talking at the beginning of this article about how strange people can be? And how telling someone they can't have something makes them want it more? Well, that's part of it. Let's take this one thing at a time.
We agreed that dating would increase your self confidence. When you are more confident about yourself, you automatically become a more interesting and attractive person. Your family will notice it. Your friends will notice it. And eventually, your ex will notice it.
So how will spending less time stressing out about your ex and thinking about what happened between you two. I'm sure your friends and family have been sympathetic and supportive. But hanging out with someone who is stressed out and constantly complaining about what happened isn't that much fun. Getting you out of that negative frame of mind can only help you feel better and make you more pleasant to be around.
On top of that, you will be more appealing to your ex if it becomes clear that you aren't spending your time mooning about him and are getting on with your life.
Well what about having fun? How will you having fun with other guys help you get your ex back? The point isn't so much that you're having fun with other guys as it is that you are having fun. Think about it from your own perspective. Who would you rather spend time around? Someone who is enjoying life, or someone moping around all depressed? Well your ex boyfriend is going to feel the same way.
This was just an introduction to how dating other men could convince your man to come back. In the Magic of Making Up, T.W. Jackson goes into more detail on how dating other men can help you get yours back.
