Breaking The Pattern Key To Winning Your Ex Back
Have people been telling you that you need to change your hair, your makeup, your clothing style, something, anything if you want to get back your man? That probably sounds crazy to you. After all, you haven't gotten fat, and you take good care of yourself. You're still very much the woman he fell for not so long ago. Surely they're wrong.
Actually, the people telling you to change are right on. Making the kinds of changes they describe will help you in winning your ex back despite the fact that you are still very much the woman he fell for.
Subconscious at Work
The reason what they say makes sense has to do with the way our subconscious minds work. We, every one of us, automatically and unconsciously make connections between our emotions and what we sense in the world around us when we feel those emotions. In other words, our brains automatically associate positive emotions with what we see, smell, touch, and while we are feeling those positive emotions.
Think about it. Surely you've experienced a situation where something you see, hear, or smell triggers happy feelings, or dark moods. That's because you experienced similar sights, scents, or sounds when you were feeling those emotions some time in your past.
Your ex's subconscious mind does that too. This is a big problem. Your man probably now has a lot of bad associations with your appearance. It isn't because you changed the way you dressed from the way he liked, or because he hated your latest hairstyle. It's because of your breakup.
Breaking up is hugely stressful and involves lots of negative emotions. And who was he around when those emotions were highest? Who did he have his attention on during this high-stress time? You.
Because of that and the way our minds work, he surely has all sorts of negative emotions associated with the way you look, smell, feel, dress. Everything he perceived about you when you two split up probably has unconscious negative associations for him. If you want to increase the chances that you will get back your man, you need to break this pattern.
Breaking the Pattern
Unless you break the pattern, when your ex is around you, those subconscious negative feelings are likely to resurface, or at least color his reactions toward you. And the last thing you need when you are trying to rekindle a relationship is for him to have the vague sad or angry feeling whenever he sees you.
To break the pattern, you need to change things about yourself. Now I'm not saying you need to become someone else. You still need to be yourself or you'll just make matters worse. But there are certainly things you can change that don't change who you are. Here are a few examples:
- Change your hair style to one he has never seen before
- Use a new perfume
- Wear a different clothing style
- Switch from glasses to contacts or vice versa
- Develop more self-confidence
You get the idea. Changing things like these will change the pattern he perceives without you having to change who you are. And once you break the pattern, you'll eliminate many of the left-over negative feelings he has from the time of your break up.
Subconscious emotional patterns are not the only things that can help or hinder you in your quest for winning your ex back. This site is full of tips and advice that will help you get back your man.
If you want the best possible chance to get your ex back, you'll want to follow the complete and time-tested relationship repair plan laid out in The Magic of Making Up
